Normalizing Squirting in Couples

Explanation of squirting during couples sex

Squirting, also known as "squirting," is the expulsion of a clear, watery fluid through the urethra during sexual arousal or orgasm in some women [link 1]. It's important to clarify that squirting is not the same as female ejaculation: the former is a copious expulsion of fluid, mostly composed of water and coming from the bladder, while female ejaculation is a scarcer, whitish secretion that comes from the Skene glands [link 2].

The squirting phenomenon is often related to intense stimulation of the G-spot, an area located on the anterior wall of the vagina, about 4 cm from the vaginal entrance [link 3]. Many women may experience the sensation of needing to urinate just before squirting, which is completely normal and part of the process. Not all women experience it, and its absence does not mean there is a sexual problem or that orgasms are less intense or satisfying [link 4].

Normalizing squirting in couples sex

1. It is a natural and variable response

• Squirting is an involuntary and natural bodily reaction to certain levels of sexual arousal [link 5].

• Only between 15% and 55% of women ever experience it, and not doing so is just as normal [link 6].

2. It is not a mandatory objective

• Sexual pleasure shouldn't be centered on achieving squirt; the important thing is to enjoy and explore sexuality without pressure.

• Not achieving this does not mean that sexual intercourse is less pleasurable or satisfying.

3. Communication and trust in a couple

• Talking openly about the topic helps eliminate myths and shame [link 7].

• Confidence and relaxation are key to enjoying sex and, if it happens, squirting.

4. Techniques and joint exploration

• G-spot stimulation, combined with clitoral stimulation, can increase the chances of experiencing squirting [link 8].

• Trying different positions, sex toys, and spending time on foreplay can be helpful, but don't overdo it.

5. The expelled fluid is normal

• Squirting fluid is mostly water and may contain some diluted urine, but it does not have a strong odor and is not a cause for concern [link 9].

• It may be abundant, but it is completely harmless.

Key message

Squirting is just one of the many ways the body can respond to sexual pleasure. It's not an obligation or a standard to achieve. The key to sexuality as a couple is communication, mutual exploration, and respect for each person's rhythms and desires. If it happens, enjoy it; if not, that's okay too. The important thing is that both partners feel comfortable and satisfied with the shared experience.

Links

1. [link 1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6053022/

2. [link 2] https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/what-is-female-ejaculation/

3. [link 3] https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/g-spot

4. [link 4] https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-moment-youth/201912/what-is-squirting-and-why-does-it-happen

5. [link 5] https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/322380

6. [link 6] https://www.verywellhealth.com/what-is-female-ejaculation-5088329

7. [link 7] https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/sex-pleasure-and-sexual-dysfunction/sex-and-communication

8. [link 8] https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a31994034/how-to-make-a-woman-squirt/

9. [link 9] https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20150224-the-truth-about-female-ejaculation